Meditating with my son

After reading my son a bedtime story, my 5 yr old sons asks if I can meditate in his room. For the past couple of weeks, I've been doing 20 mins of meditation in my son's room while he sleeps. I sit a chair next to his bed and sit quietly, "doing nothing" as he puts it ;)

As I was getting ready to prepare for meditation, my son tells me that he was meditating in school today. During quiet time, he was meditating but the teacher told him to lay down. I asked my son to show me what he was doing.  The little guy then proceeds to sit up on his bed, cross his legs, put his hands cupped in his lap, and close his eyes.  "Were you laughing or making noise when you were meditating at school?" I ask my son. He shakes his head no. "Were other kids looking and laughing, being loud?" Again, he shakes his head no.  He then lays down and looks upset.

"Do you want to meditate with Daddy?" I ask him. He smiles and nods his head.  So, I'm sitting in the chair next to his bed and my son is sitting cross-legged on his bed. I start the meditation timer on my iPod Touch (Soto Timer) and we begin. My timer consists of a 45 second session, followed by an 18 minute session, ending with a 2 minute session. Each session is signaled with a little gong sound. The iPod is set on it's lowest volume, so the gong is barely audible.

I then go over some of the basics with my son. I tell him to breathe in and out through his nose, quietly so there is no sound.  I tell him that he can think "in" during his inhale and "out" during his exhale.  I end the instruction with, "sit quitely".  During the meditation, I turn to peak at my son and he's sitting quietly on his bed with his eyes closed. He appears calm and innocent.  He is not straining to keep his posture.  After about 3 minutes into the session, I turn to my son and tell him he can lay down now. I ask him what he did and he replied that he was counting in his mind.

"That's good" I say.  "You can count if you want." I tell him. I tuck him into bed, kiss him on the cheek, wish him a good night and return to the chair by his bed to finish my meditation session.

Grapevine and the Fox Trot

During our last dance class the instructor reintroduced the fox trot to us. After doing the tango and waltz for some time, the fox trot was quite easy to pick up. The basic pattern was slow-slow-quick-quick.

After getting down the basic pattern with tempo, we were introduced to the fox trot grapevine. This is a common step found in other fitness related activities, but the gist is basically moving sideways, while alternating stepping behind and in front of the supporting leg.

We were then given the task of nearly traversing the whole length of the room using the grapevine fox trot. This was much more difficult than it sounded as one of the requirements is to keep out shoulders square facing each other while our legs pointed the direction of movement. This really works on isolation of the hips and shoulders in movement (quite the opposite from taiji).

He then gave us a hint to think about the concept of ‘push and pull’ within dancing. After watching him demonstrate it again, I noticed that during the setup, there was a strong turning of the hips to the direction of motion. This results in having the ability to ‘step through’ with the leg instead of step around. Additionally, there was quite a bit of ‘pushing’ with the foundation leg in the movement. In order to truly push with good power, the hips have to really be squared up so that one can ‘push through’.  Can we clearly differentiate between pushing and pulling in our movement?

Also, he emphasized in dancing the importance of weight changes on the foot. You have to really be clear of which foot is weighted and which foot is not. Always move with the un-weighted foot. Are we able to clearly define the weighted foot? Are we able to clearly define the transfer of weight within the foot (from heel to toe)?

With these points in mind, we attempted it again. While the result was better, we were still unable to hit our mark. We only made it about 90% of the way down the room, but this gives up something to work on.